With so many standout gold-medal moments at the Olympics, it’s easy to forget an important truth: Most athletes who compete don’t win.
But during the 2022 Winter Olympics in Beijing, top athletes showed us that not winning can make for standout moments, too. Mental health experts say these examples of弹力andmental toughness, even in the face of tough losses, are important.
“公开表达情感使人们能够练习自我同情，保持积极的势头，并相信自己，”Leela R. Magavi，MD, apsychiatrist和regional medical director ofMindpath Healthin Newport Beach, California. “In talking openly about their losses and practicing gratitude for other things in life, these athletes not only normalize struggle and disappointment for others, but also make things easier on themselves.”
Following in the footsteps of stars likegymnast Simone Bilesandtennis pro Naomi Osaka, a few star Winter Olympic athletes have been open about what it’s like to struggle under pressure and deal with disappointment.
这种开放性至关重要。当我们谈到精神韧性时，许多人会考虑在压力下的信心，坚持不懈和成功Christian Glasgow, PsyD, a psychologist based in Ventura, California, who works with professional and Olympic athletes. But it’s also about learning to persevere in the face of a loss, because that’s part of the game, too.
“These athletes, particularly at high levels,hatelosing more than theylikeGlasgow博士说，赢得胜利。“我的目标是重新破坏这种情况：如果你没有得到金牌，生活会很好。”
当你能够作为生活中的一部分看损失时，而不是将其视为个人故障，而不是将其视为个人故障，而是不太可能开始怀疑自己的能力。因此，Glasgow说，您可以在下次努力努力。“怀疑是信心的杀手。”
And it’s a really important way of inspiring everyone at home watching. When these sports greats acknowledge failure, defeat, and disappointment — while expressing gratitude toward themselves for showing up and giving it their best shot — it’s a reminder to all of us at home to maybe not be so hard on ourselves the next time we inevitably slip up, Glasgow says.
这里只是一些美国运动员，他不害怕在冬季奥运会上有点脆弱，所以提供了一个精神韧性的例子。
1. Snowboarder Shaun White Missed the Podium, but Walked Away Proud, Grateful, and Praising His Competitors
After winning three Olympic gold medals in the halfpipe (in 2006, 2010, and 2018), the snowboarder肖村白在北京2022年冬季奥运会完成第四名。在事件后正式退休的白色，在第四位完成后致以衷心的，泪流满面的采访。
“现在很多情绪击中了我，”他告诉NBC在增加他的竞争对手的欢呼和善意之后，他“如此幸福”。“滑雪，谢谢，”他继续前行了。“这是我生命中的爱。”
他通过视频聊天感谢他的家人，他哭了，然后谈到了他如何兴奋地看到这项运动去哪里，看着他的竞争对手继续成功。“我很自豪能够站在他身上，”白人说Ayumu Hirano, the Japanese snowboarder who won gold.
说，这表明感恩和体育精神（泪流满面）是一个令人痛苦的弹性典范Julia M. Kim, PhD, a psychologist at the Hospital for Special Surgery in New York City, who works with patients after sports-related injuries. “When we ‘lose’ something, it is important to balance it with what we have.” Doing this can help us remember that a specific loss (like at a sports event) doesn’t mean that we’ve lost everything, even though it can feel like that in the moment, Dr. Kim says.
Recognizing all the great things in your life, as White did, is a way to anchor yourself in reality instead of going down what Kim calls “a rabbit hole of despair.” That’s true resilience.
2.滑雪板杰米安德森真实地获得了情感
杰米安德森, an American snowboarder who won gold in the slopestyle event at the 2014 and 2018 Winter Olympics, finished ninth in this year’s event. Following the finish, she opened up about her emotional state going into competition.
“我有一点点mental breakdown,” Anderson toldNBC。“在一天结束时，我只是人。我尽我所能。我一直努力地努力，但我不是机器人。“
专家鼓掌她的勇敢和脆弱性。“在整个媒体平台上的这些坦诚表达正在提高意识并提示更多个人寻求帮助[心理健康]，”马卡维博士说。“学会安德森也在努力努力，对压力和焦虑的衰弱影响有助于使这些感受和条件的其他运动员，粉丝和沉默的观众正常化。”
在分享这些思想后，似乎安德森更好。“我决定我不希望我的快乐取决于结果或奖牌，”她告诉NBC。“无论如何，我想快乐，我想真正为让它放下的女孩骄傲。”
3. Skier Mikaela Shiffrin Relied on Friends and Family to Cope With Disappointment
In接受NBC的采访after her ninth place finish in the women’s super-G (an event for which she was a heavy favorite),Mikaela Shiffrin, the most decorated American alpine skier in history, opened up about disappointment. “I feel bad for letting myself down, and letting down the world,” she said. “It is failure. It’s okay to say that. I am okay with that.”
但在同一谈话中，她谈到了她对所有伸出支持她的人的感激程度。“我不想觉得我应该得到它，”她说。“我永远不会觉得人类可能是如此善良。”
而且，她明确表示，她有很多才能在滑雪职业生涯中感激。“我有奥林匹克奖牌，我的成功很大，胜利的时刻，在过去几年里有很多幸福，”她说。
格拉斯哥说，Shiffrin的坦率令人耳目一新。他补充说，发声和面对困难的感受是面对损失的最佳方式。“当事情进展顺利时，个人成长不会发生，”他说。“当我们在体育和生活中令人难以置信的挑战时，会发生这种情况。”
